If she does not naturally trust your leadership, you can be sure that if you marry, there will be frequent conflict. Is she a woman whom you want your daughters to be like because they will be? Is she the kind of woman you want your sons to marry because they will? Would you consider yourself honored to be with her because of how she speaks, carries herself, prays, worships God, makes decisions, serves others, works, and interacts with other men?
Is she a nagging woman, likened to a dripping faucet Prov. Is she a loud and overbearing woman who would be exhausting at home and embarrassing in public Prov. Is she the kind of temperamental and quarrelsome woman that makes it better for you to camp on the roof alone than share a home with her Prov. Is she a gossip Prov. Because once a man decides to walk with Jesus as a faithful church member, to love his wife as Christ loves the church, to raise his kids as pastor-dad, and to work his job wholeheartedly unto the Lord, he will have little time for much of anything else.
Yet he will be happy if the deepest desires of his heart are the things that are taking his time and energy. If you want to be a mom who stays home with the children for example, then you must have a man who will be a great daddy and longs for that role. Further, since your daughters will marry men like their daddy, and your sons will grow up to be men like their daddy, make sure to marry a man whom you want imitated for generations. Therefore, he should not be the porn guy, the flirt guy, the has- lots-of-female-friends-he-calls-buddies guy, the cheats-on-you-when- you-are-dating guy, the dates-multiple-women-at-a-time guy, or the compares-you-to-other-women guy.
If he is to be your husband, his heart, hands, mind, eyes, wallet, and life need to be solely devoted to you. If you have to keep trying to make him faithful or if you question his loyalty, he is not ready to be a good husband. For the single women, you need to not turn biblical wisdom for decision-making into a legal case by which to try every woman you meet. Everyone, including you, has faults, flaws, and is a work in progress.
However, because who we marry is the second most important decision we ever make following who our God is , we must be prayerful, careful, and biblical in our decision. The first question had to do with the "line" in dating, with readers asking where is the boundary that should not be crossed during a casual or serious dating relationship. Driscoll first responded by asserting that the question is wrong, saying it should be more about when is the right time, rather than where is the line.
If you're trying to get away with as much as you can, your aim might not be to glorify God. You must check your heart motive," Driscoll suggested. He added that according to the Bible, there is not supposed to be any sort of consummation until after a man and a woman are in a marriage covenant. Christian couples who are not yet married need to seek the counsel of parents, grandparents, pastors, and other close people whom they trust, he said.
Driscoll then shared a piece of advice that he heard from another pastor about the boundaries not be crossed, and related: Is it OK to live together or have sex before marriage?