Well, at least Japanese people really are polite. I mean, they are, right? The Truth About Dating Japanese Women Ever been to a nightclub? I mean in any country. And so it goes, in France, Germany, Bermuda, and all over the world. Men and women are meeting each other, at clubs, coffee shops, and at the mailbox on the corner. So do foreign guys also go out with Japanese women? Yeah, the tremendous number six. Half a dozen couples a day, out of cities with millions of people.
What do you think about it? Sure, I get dates here. But I got dates back in the U. Did ya have to order two appetizers and desert? Jeez, for such skinny people, Japanese gals can sure pack it away. Although I still believe that for her to opine about dating as a foreign man seems roughly on par with me talking about being a German blogger. The girl ask the guy out? Subtle signals - Shyness. You make life easier for the other person without being asked to.
Direct eye contact is a bit rude in Japan at the best of times. I wish I could think of a good example! The first time I had sex with a Japanese guy was easily the most bamboozling experience of my entire life. But I had a network of Japanese friends mostly female and every time I encountered a cultural difference I immediately pumped them all for information, asking my millions of questions. I make generalized statements only when something that I personally experienced was confirmed as The Norm.
The biggest difference is that sex in Japan is not a mutual sharing experience with both partners spontaneously doing whatever they feel like or enjoy whenever they feel like doing it. Sex has rules and sex has roles just as every social interaction in Japan has rules and roles. There is an active partner and a passive partner. Active means moving; passive means unmoving.
In heterosexual sex, the active partner is always male, and the passive partner is always female. In gay sex you work out your roles beforehand: Straight people have sex like that too, in reality. So there is an active partner and a passive partner, which causes various flow on effects. Sometimes women will move around a very little during sex, but mostly not at all. The slang term for a woman who lies completely still in bed is maguro tuna.
When it came to the guys I dated, even though it was completely outside their experience, they sort of kind of eventually adjusted their thinking and accepted the fact that I was active because I was Foreign and Foreign Women Are Different but the thing I could never completely change was the fixed idea they had that someone must be passive. And total shutdowns still happened: I was inadvertently terrorizing my partner by dropping them into the middle of a scary foreign wilderness and telling them to make do without a map.
This is kind of gross! You should shower directly before and after you have sex. Before is more important than after. The way I first found out about this was in conversation with my friend Natsue.