Unlike other sites, you can freely send and receive messages to prospective lovers. Gold membership essentially gives you the ability to filter people you're interested in, bumps you to the top of search ratings, and marks you out as a "serious" member. The downside is that the site's format is a little dated, and it has something of a reputation for sleaze. You're bound to stumble across some saucy R18 selfies, and ladies in particular will have to filter out a barrage of unsavoury chat-up lines.
That's where FindSomeone claims to have a point of difference. That means Gold status is pretty much a must-have for guys, but not necessarily for ladies, who can play the waiting game. That being said, he reckons Gold membership also serves as a sort of signal for both sexes. About half FindSomeone's 80, active singles are Gold members. Naturally, Davies doesn't think you can put a price on love.
Almost a third of members leaving the site report that they have actually found somebody: Finally, there's the local branch of Match. The company didn't respond to request for comment, so we don't know how many Kiwis are members or what sort of success rates it has. What we do know is that the free membership Match offers is so basic as to be pretty much worthless. While there is little to no need to panic and abandon your search right away, it is nonetheless important to follow some basic safety rules when communicating with someone for the first time online: Never send a person that you met online money.
If you only follow this one rule and none of the others your will be well served. You should be extremely cautious when a potential partner you have just met online asks you to help him or her financially. The stories they tell you may be heartbreaking and believable — Until you meet the person face to face and develop trust over a long period of time, it is best to assume they are also fictional.
These people are professionals who create dramatic stories that call for your compassion — often involving diseases, tragic personal events like accidents or other sad stories. So before you decide to financially support a person you do not know, you should consult with a close friend, a family member or a lawyer. Usually outsiders have a more objective view. Always be prudent when meeting somebody in person for the first time. It is exciting to have found a special someone onlin, they seem to be very attractive and intelligent and you cannot wait to meet him or her in person for the first time — this is absolutely natural and understandable.
However, you should still take some basic precautions: Inform a friend or a family member that you are meeting a person you have met online. Tell your family or friend the name, email-address and phone-number of the person you will meet. After a while if you think that you are right for one another, you can organise a physical date and get to know them more. Many sites also run group events. These are organised so that single people can meet other single people.
Some unscrupulous websites sell information to other companies in order to target you for marketing, and this can mean that your privacy is invaded. This goes alongside the sites terms and conditions.